tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post8132586035223410251..comments2023-03-29T02:20:45.192-07:00Comments on Asexual curiosities: Cisgendered men don't wear tie tacks: A theory of performative masculinityUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-68449675467138233682014-08-07T00:26:58.232-07:002014-08-07T00:26:58.232-07:00Take a look at our Leather Tie made from the fines...Take a look at our <a href="http://www.leather4gay.com/en/39-leather-tie" rel="nofollow"><b>Leather Tie</b></a> made from the finest quality sheep napa leather & Tie Length - 60 inch. Most of our items can however be made in different colours and sizes. please do not hesitate to contact me if you have a special requirement as i am always happy to assist. 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Men's suits are just starting to come back into fashion as something worn outside of the office and because of that I suspect you will see more changes in men's suits that allow for more infusions of beauty and more diversity in design. <br />Most men that I know care about their appearance but don't consider their suits to be a true fashion reflection of who they are. Instead they view them as a uniform you must wear in the office so they buy a generic suit and wear it everyday. <br />I also think it is important to note that the man standing in the back is wearing a pinstriped suit a shiny purple tie and a purple and white shirt with a purple pocket square and a lapel pin that is very shiny. I find the colors of that tie combined with the shininess of the tie and pocket square to be very pretty. Yet he doesn't strike me as effeminate. It is much more diverse and ornamental than the woman's plain black and white dress. In fact all of the men in that picture are wearing more color and variance in design than the woman. Lastly, I'm sure that everyone of my friends in fashion and design would flip out about the notion that men's clothing cannot be pretty. Although a lot of men balk at the idea of being pretty and not handsome it doesn't change the fact that men's fashion, while more subtle than women's fashion, has a great deal of beauty in it. And white lapels is a really old school style of suits that men wore in the thirties.<br />JesseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-87419102015596476892010-06-02T12:28:51.285-07:002010-06-02T12:28:51.285-07:00Thanks, Figleaf. The intro was written 6 months or...Thanks, Figleaf. The intro was written 6 months or so ago, when I was a lot less regular in my updates. I should go and change it. And you have a cool blog, too.<br /><br />True, loads of people perform non-performative masculinity. I see it in reactions to the rise of the male cosmetics industry, and things like manscaping. Looking back on it, this post is an awful lot more gender essentialist than I normally am, and the way men have been told to perform (or not perform) masculinity is obviously highly socialised.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-69333104819448122222010-06-02T11:24:31.788-07:002010-06-02T11:24:31.788-07:00As a thoroughly cis-hetero male I think your last ...As a thoroughly cis-hetero male I think your last paragraph is brilliant. I'd add, though, that at least in part that masculine absence of performance can be highly performed. The performance, I'm pretty sure, is fueled not so much by homophobia per se as by homophobia-phobia -- a possibly irrational fear of being mistaken for, and then ridiculed or pummled for, somehow appearing gay.<br /><br />The point of your last paragraph stands, though, because the attempted negative performances men attempt are absolutely opposite from the impulse you're referring to to <em>affirmatively</em> perform looking masculine.<br /><br />Cool post. Also cool blog! Your intro says you're going nowhere fast. I'm not sure I'd agree. I might be cis/straight/sexual but I don't think I can't ever stress often enough how important it is that asexuality be recognized enough that people can feel comfortable being out about it. Because <em>not</em> believing in asexuality, whether it's situational or lifelong, seriously distorts society's understanding of sexuality.<br /><br />So again, cool post and cool blog, SlightlyMetaphysical!<br /><br />figleaf<br />www.realadultsex.com<br /><br />figleaffigleafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01440982008394316977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-37772196978867424642010-05-24T09:38:16.974-07:002010-05-24T09:38:16.974-07:00Espikai, you're right. The sample (which is a ...Espikai, you're right. The sample (which is a tiny enough sample group to base an observation off) is only representative of people who are really into the technical details of fashion, so biases itself.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-52865145368213096122010-05-23T15:44:08.412-07:002010-05-23T15:44:08.412-07:00All right, this is part one, because I'm still...All right, this is part one, because I'm still not sure how to explain my thoughts on your last two paragraphs. <br /><br />I think your sample group is possibly problematic for observing the fashion sense of men in general, because the people who do fashion blogs are more interested in such things than the average person. There may be trans guys on the internet squeeing over tie tacks (speaking of which, where have you found trans fashion blogs? All my searches have failed), but there are lots of trans guys who are about as interested in that stuff as any given cis guy—not very.espikaihttp://queeracegeek.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-63391744003310873282010-05-23T10:13:49.393-07:002010-05-23T10:13:49.393-07:00For the kind of thinking I'm describing, I sus...For the kind of thinking I'm describing, I suspect that it's something that most of us are guilty of to some degree or other. But some people recognize it and are able to temper it, while others (like the people you're describing) just go all out with it.ACHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06643809450938135601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-12459809651119517162010-05-22T15:13:43.909-07:002010-05-22T15:13:43.909-07:00AHC, I see your point. Thinking about it, I'm ...AHC, I see your point. Thinking about it, I'm certainly guilty of the same thing myself.<br /><br />However, what I really objected to in these sites wasn't just the occasional undertones that less formally dressed people were worse, but this idea that the followers had attained a new level of manliness, and everything else was worth hatred, not as an underlying topic, but as a self-justification method that bound the group together.<br /><br />I also think that what you're saying is interesting from an asexual point of view. I'm sure you know of asexuals who've joined the asexual community, decided it was the best thing ever, and then got a superiority complex.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-2968735405378990302010-05-22T14:25:44.289-07:002010-05-22T14:25:44.289-07:00Everything in the cisgentlemen’s wardrobe is desig...<i>Everything in the cisgentlemen’s wardrobe is designed to create superiority. Not even that, designed to create a snivelling and imagined inferiority in others.</i><br />People do this in a thousand different ways--with clothes, with how you speak, with what you eat, with who you hang out with, with what you like, etc.<br /><br />A feeling to be superior to (most) others or to view (certain) others as inferior is deeply present for many people, and can be based on the most trivial of things. I've known people who, in their more honest moments, admitted to such feelings based on ability at Tetris or Neopets, despite the fact they they themselves felt this to be absurd. But the feelings were there nonetheless.ACHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06643809450938135601noreply@blogger.com