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RilianSharphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00153117604262687451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-25394032774162926662013-03-28T17:11:48.446-07:002013-03-28T17:11:48.446-07:00I wear a suit everyday and I happen to wear tie ta...I wear a suit everyday and I happen to wear tie tacks and most of the friends that I have that present male also dress as I do but the superiority that you speak of in your blog doesn't seem to be the reason. The reason that most dress that way is because those are the only suits your going to find unless your willing to have one made, as for tie tacks and clips most of the ones that you find in regular stores are generic clips or pins. The person who must wear a suit but doesn't make loads of money doesn't have a lot of choice in their suit selection.<br /> I think a large part of that has to do with the fashion industry. 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In fact all of the men in that picture are wearing more color and variance in design than the woman. Lastly, I'm sure that everyone of my friends in fashion and design would flip out about the notion that men's clothing cannot be pretty. Although a lot of men balk at the idea of being pretty and not handsome it doesn't change the fact that men's fashion, while more subtle than women's fashion, has a great deal of beauty in it. And white lapels is a really old school style of suits that men wore in the thirties.<br />JesseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-70896580102986705622012-07-22T02:39:37.474-07:002012-07-22T02:39:37.474-07:00I tend to regard demisexual as the best representa...I tend to regard demisexual as the best representation of my sexuality. I appear asexual untill a bond is formed. I'm not attracted to total strangers. The analogy one male coworker once gave of 'imagining you had access to the most handsome male modles in the world, wouldn't you mess around with them?' had no effect on me. That picking people out at random based on looks thing that most people do is completely beyond me. Even "establishments" where you can purchase human company is beyond my personal scope of understanding and comfort, regardless of the attractiveness of the merchandise.<br />Then I go from that to calling my now recent ex, who I knew from work for five years prior to seeing each other, (and unfortunately didn't bond with me the way I did him) in a state of thinking "omfg! why aren't you answering your phone??!! I'm over HErE aLL Alone! YOU'RE The one That's missing Out!!" He was a big, tall guy who decided not to hurt me by actually completeling the act since he didn't feel the same way about me emotionally that I did him. I'm actually torn because of his decision. We'd known each other for so long that I felt comfortable with him and gradually began to feel physical attraction for him, but I know he didn't return my feelings, so I'm grateful he didn't COMPLETELY use me because I would NOT have liked that feeling of abadonment afterwards. ...but he was pretty thick, and from what I hear that's what feels best, so I have some residual frustration about not being able to.. say experience him, but that directly goes back to the desire of wanting him to stay and bond with me. They're almost inseparable with me.<br /><br />I also had VERY strong sexual desires as a teenager. A "normal" person might think I'm repressed, but I just feel no need to act them out with total strangers. In fact, I'm veritably celibate. I don't know about the official definition, but the way I sum up my sexuality is, if I love someone, I'm going to be sexually attracted to them, and vice versa. Or inversely if I don't love you, I won't be sexually attracted to you, and again vice versa.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-7306818364815185972011-04-27T15:17:39.921-07:002011-04-27T15:17:39.921-07:00nice blognice blogviagra onlinehttp://www.iservepharmacy.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-42473124806413008032010-12-30T06:47:26.300-08:002010-12-30T06:47:26.300-08:00Come to the Wordpress side of the force! We have c...Come to the Wordpress side of the force! We have cookies. :3 Also better systems.<br /><br />I don't actually have anything to say about your post except full and total agreement and also mild guilt about not expecting more in my own meatlife. But you knew that.Sciatrixhttp://www.writingfromfactorx.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-51015150276583975132010-12-30T01:23:12.550-08:002010-12-30T01:23:12.550-08:00Where do comments keep disappearing to? Blogger is...Where do comments keep disappearing to? Blogger is starting to vex me.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-54849536404386655032010-12-30T01:21:50.550-08:002010-12-30T01:21:50.550-08:00Charles- I don't think you're being especi...Charles- I don't think you're being especially derailing. Try harder next time.<br /><br />Because it's true, people have a really weird idea of what the rainbow IS. I've seen people narrow the definition down to "Queer means violently opressed", "Queer means attracted to the same gender or being a different gender", "Queer means everyone sharing the same issues." In fact, the more I think about it, the more I realise that these wild twists of logic are just the invented reasons for an instinctive desire not to approach asexuality. Maybe we've been unqueering ourselves so successfully in the media, helped by a media that's less about identity and all about actions, linked with chastity movements, that people have a completely false idea of how queer we are.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-61312884792746520682010-12-27T14:47:54.300-08:002010-12-27T14:47:54.300-08:00Hi. I've literally just sent off the first e-m...Hi. I've literally just sent off the first e-mail about it. Either I, or Sciatrix, or both, will forward it to you, and I'll add your name to the list.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-2282189987403655602010-12-27T14:41:25.918-08:002010-12-27T14:41:25.918-08:00Hey, this is you*hear*but*do*you*listen. Just lett...Hey, this is you*hear*but*do*you*listen. Just letting you know that I'd love to be a part of the Asexuality 101 project. I already have a glossary of asexual terminology that I made a while ago that might be helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-25448480202203787712010-12-27T09:20:01.585-08:002010-12-27T09:20:01.585-08:00Yes, I get dismissed all the time. On AVEN too, I...Yes, I get dismissed all the time. On AVEN too, I often feel like people view me as the exception because I openly identify as gray-A. People are just stuck thinking that everyone is a stereotype or an exception to that stereotype.<br /><br />The intersection of gay and asexual is... well there's a lot to say. Overall, I actually like it a lot. Unrelatability might be an advantage, since people are less likely to assume they know everything about you. There are homophobes, but I'm lucky to not meet too many. The queer community has its faults but I feel more comfortable identifying as asexual there than anywhere else. I can't imagine what I would do if I were heteroromantic.millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05990852054891771988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-4860807243277114282010-12-27T02:14:49.494-08:002010-12-27T02:14:49.494-08:00Siggy- yeah, I get why it'd be easier for you ...Siggy- yeah, I get why it'd be easier for you to identify as gay and then bring out the demi stuff later, if ever. I think it's easier for heteroromantic people to just say 'I'm asexual' and be assumed to be heteroromantic, but there's something weird in some people's heads that means gay and asexual just don't seem as relatable.<br /><br />On a related note, you mention gay stereotypes. It always annoys me that asexuals don't seem to get to count when it comes to breaking stereotypes. People assume that asexual men don't count as men when they make statements about male sexuality, doubly so for gay asexuals. I want to know why we're (/you're?) not a valid part of the spectrum.<br /><br />I like the 'influenced by asexual discourse' thing. That's good. Especially since it encourages the sort of conversation I've been longing for recently, where sexual people actually look at asexual discourse, rather than treating us (/you?) as an interesting sideshow.<br /><br />Like you, I suppose I'm torn between really wanting to increase visibility, and avoiding the complications that come with identifying as asexual when that's not always the best descriptor.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-33669664406294421432010-12-26T22:23:33.083-08:002010-12-26T22:23:33.083-08:00Hmm, I do pretty much the same, but the other way ...Hmm, I do pretty much the same, but the other way around. I frequently identify as gay, even though I'm not all the way gay. The way I identify depends on what contexts I expect to see people. Unless I expect to see them in a variety of contexts I keep it simple.<br /><br />My solution, like yours, also has problems. For one thing, it makes me feel like I'm contributing to asexual invisibility. On the plus side, I break lots of gay stereotypes!<br /><br />One way you might describe yourself is as someone who has been greatly influenced by asexual discourse. You're someone who realizes that the diversity discussed in the asexual community has implications for a much larger group of people. Some of it you even find personally relevant.millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05990852054891771988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-27378357373106651552010-12-23T09:04:23.028-08:002010-12-23T09:04:23.028-08:00On my site, I have a section on background informa...On my site, I have a section on <a href="http://www.asexualexplorations.net/home/stories.html" rel="nofollow">background information</a> intended for people who are new to asexuality because, I agree, the bibliography of research isn't a good place to start. The bibliography is largely designed for people wanting to research asexuality, and for people writing class papers on asexuality. There is currently in the works an edited volume on feminist and queer perspectives on asexuality, another edited volume on asexuality, and a special issue of Psychology and Sexuality about asexuality. Once these are out, there will be a much wider diversity of academic work on asexuality.<br /><br />For the wiki, one thing that we're trying to do is to make it better linked and more prominent. Also, you don't really have to be too active in the AVEN forums to help out with the wiki--my own feeling is that the static content is quite a bit different from the dynamic stuff going on on the forums. My own goal it to make the static content a great place for people to go who are new to asexuality.ACHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06643809450938135601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-80124057433893597082010-12-23T08:37:37.206-08:002010-12-23T08:37:37.206-08:00ACH: I think the work you do collecting research i...ACH: I think the work you do collecting research is wonderful. It's not a criticism of you to say that the stuff you document is dominated by questions of whether asexuality exists, and tends to be heavy and data-filled. This is just what the research is like. It just also means it's not going to be what new asexuals are looking for.<br /><br />I've read through the AVENwiki thread. It's great that you're getting that to work. If I'm honest, I'd barely spent 10 minutes there before today. (This isn't an argument to keep them but) it almost makes me sad that the old in-jokes are going. They remind me of people who have left us, the happy times they must have shared, their bizzare optimism that their in-jokes were the in-jokes of asexuality.<br /><br />I thank you for the offer of a link from the AVENwiki. Believe me, I shall take you up on it. Best of luck with the wiki. I'd help, but it would involve some sort of active presence on AVEN, and I've found AVEN drains me.<br />I'm still intent on the 101 blog idea, because I think it has a much smaller scope, and a much clear idea of what it wants to be (even if that idea is just in my head), and we're crying out for up-to-date non-academic static resources at the moment. If we end up with two, that'd be fantastic.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-86975987214479039422010-12-23T07:57:05.793-08:002010-12-23T07:57:05.793-08:00ACH: I'm sorry, I really wasn't clear abou...ACH: I'm sorry, I really wasn't clear about that and that's my fault entirely. I didn't mean your personal writing at all or your blog. What I meant was your links to the body of existing scientific study on asexuality, which does tend to be geared heavily towards trying to "prove" that asexuality is a real thing.Sciatrixhttp://www.writingfromfactorx.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-67760895753805248852010-12-23T07:24:42.856-08:002010-12-23T07:24:42.856-08:00Yay! This, uh, assumes it ever gets finished. >...Yay! This, uh, assumes it ever gets finished. >> And I would be quite pleased to either link or host it. <br /><br />Speaking for myself, I've heard a lot of complaints about Blogspot, especially compared to Wordpress. There's a reason I picked the latter to host my blog on.Sciatrixhttp://www.writingfromfactorx.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-56399849951070615272010-12-23T07:14:17.896-08:002010-12-23T07:14:17.896-08:00In my own writing, I take the existence and legiti...In my own writing, I take the existence and legitimacy of asexuality as assumed--not doing so tends to result in writing that comes off as highly defensive, which is a major turn off to many. On an ontological level, I haven't the slightest idea what it would mean to "prove" the existence of asexuality, which is another reason for not doing so.<br /><br />Regarding the AVENwiki, in my role as a PT member, I am currently involved in doing a major revampting of it (http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/55678-updating-the-wiki/), so even if you're wanting to do something off-AVEN, it may be possible to do some sort of collaboration. (At the very least, you'd probably want a link from the AVENwiki.)ACHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06643809450938135601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-81006230474474299902010-12-22T20:58:17.011-08:002010-12-22T20:58:17.011-08:00I remembered you saying about the 'how to be c...I remembered you saying about the 'how to be come-out-to' project, and was actually considering mentioning it in the post. When it's written, if we get Awesome! Asexy 101 off the ground, I will be most insulted if you don't let me link to it copiously. Or they could possibly be resources on the same site, somehow *knows nothing about the internets, whatsoever*. And the more the merrier regarding collaborators.<br /><br />Something I forgot to mention in the post:<br />What sort of blog do people think it should be on? When I opened mine, I just googled 'blog' and clicked on the first link, but someone more tech-savvy than me may have strong preferences.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-81132174952795006102010-12-22T07:31:10.226-08:002010-12-22T07:31:10.226-08:00Aaand... the wiki belongs to AVEN anyway. It's...Aaand... the wiki belongs to AVEN anyway. It's the AVENwiki. Besides, Asexual Explorations' content tends to be geared to "proving" the existence of asexuals, which I find boring. I already know I exist, thanks. <br /><br />Also, hell yes I am interested in collaborating with you on that. I've actually got a project sort of running in the background on "what not to say if an asexual comes out to you" which I'm collaborating on with you*hear*but*do*you*listen from Shaded Triangle. Mind if I ask her if she'd like to be involved, too?Sciatrixhttp://www.writingfromfactorx.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-62022205515681693782010-12-14T05:44:48.284-08:002010-12-14T05:44:48.284-08:00Sciatrix- agreed, this all applies to communities ...Sciatrix- agreed, this all applies to communities online too. It just seemed like a seperate issue to me than when writers on blogs try to talk about asexuality, and the ways in which they get that wrong.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-70181277031348275872010-12-13T18:32:01.390-08:002010-12-13T18:32:01.390-08:00You know... making it clear that particular offlin...You know... making it clear that particular offline spaces are ace-friendly (or asexuality-discussion friendly, which may be more relevant) is a really important goal. At the same time, I think that a lot of this could apply just as well to online spaces. Is there a reason you specified offline?Sciatrixhttp://www.writingfromfactorx.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com