tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post97563688317034740..comments2023-03-29T02:20:45.192-07:00Comments on Asexual curiosities: When sexuals write asexualsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1343911386688836644.post-56579105284842383402010-12-13T08:13:01.426-08:002010-12-13T08:13:01.426-08:00Firstly, on furthering asexual thought beyond &quo...Firstly, on furthering asexual thought beyond "we exist"--SO MUCH WANT. Seriously, that's why I got into the blogosphere, that's why I write, those are the discussions I want to be having. I am bored silly by visibility. And I think that if our culture is so shallow that all our discussions are based around visibility and visibility alone, how can we ever take ourselves seriously? <br /><br />And if even we don't take ourselves seriously--and I have seen lots of asexuals tell themselves that asexuality doesn't matter, that there are so many other things that matter more, that if we speak up and say "dude, that is offensive" we'll make enemies where there are none--how can we expect anyone else to do so? <br /><br />Also, I think this is why much of the research currently being conducted with asexuality bores me. It's all about whether we exist or not. I <i>know</i> asexuals exist. There are way more interesting questions about asexuals to be asked than that. <br /><br />(Speaking of Sherlock fandom, I've actually heard some noises about Sherlock fandom failing in some ways--like almost always writing asexual!Sherlock compromising in a sexual relationship with Watson at the end, and not going into the issues that even indifferent aces in relationships with nonasexuals have with initiation and getting bored and frustrated with the whole focus on sex thing. In some ways, the trends I have observed often don't actually involve Watson compromising in any way--he gets sex, yay. Also I have seen some noise about Watson being the Right Person who makes Sherlock not asexual any more, but I have not seen that one personally myself.<br /><br />Which is not to say that the fandom is not trying, merely to say that it is not always succeeding. And, hell, it does do a lot better than the tiny amount of mainstream work we get, and a fair amount of that is probably down to genre tropes. But... trying doesn't necessarily get to the whole thing, you know?)Sciatrixhttp://www.writingfromfactorx.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com